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Post by JD on Jan 19, 2005 7:04:01 GMT -5
how many of u out there are single parents? i am. full time care giver? that would b me too. jus wondering, maybe this thread can b used to discuss kids/ kid issues. my boys are only 23mo and 1mo, but im open for discussion with ne one who has gone thru/is goin thru the same kind of things as me.
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Post by hfxpaintball on Jan 20, 2005 15:14:30 GMT -5
well, you already know about me and my kids...two boys 6.5 years (yes I had to put the .5 in there) and 4. I've been around the block when it comes to smaller kids, so if anyone has advice well, I can lend some. But to everyone out there with little ones, every situation is different and what entertains my kids might not entertain yours. Oh yeah, and I'm only a part time dad...every second weekend which sucks, but not much you can do. I love them with all my heart and they love me back.
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Post by JD on Jan 20, 2005 21:30:55 GMT -5
i jsu need a place to vent, i guess maybe im talkin more bout talking about the other parents than the kids right now, but it will most likely get back around to a kid discussion eventually. right now my 2 biggest probs are my ex complaining about long distance charges to his cell (the only # i have) when my son calls him and when my son comes home from his place he suddenly knows all these words that bring one phrase into mind --"kaa-kaa mouth!":@ how do i stop him from swearing if his father reinforces it every weekend when my son goes to visit him? arrragh. well, i know i already talked to u about part of this paintball, im jus wondering, there are tons of ppl who are members to this site, ur tellin me that we're the only single parents? maybe the world is more perfect than i thought......
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Post by hfxpaintball on Jan 21, 2005 14:06:14 GMT -5
again, sorry to dissappoint, but no the world is not more perfect....just illusory sometimes. The cell phone thing is a problem but if his father doesn't want to pay the charges tell him to give you aland line # then the problem won't be there. But it's probably air time that he's geting charged for. cell phones aren't charged long distance for recieved calls...just outgoing. But the calls still use air time.
As for the swearing part. Well, the only thin you can do is try to get the boy to understand that those words are bad or for grown ups only. There is no easy way to change it all unless you magically get his father to start complying. Me, personally, I don't really hold back my language in front of my kids...I curb it, but I deal with a lot of idiots in front of them. But it's nothing they haven't heard from their mother or grandmother or grandfather, for that matter. But there are some things that I will never say in front of my kids and those are racial terms. I hate the words and they won't hear them out of my mouth. But magically my boys haven't repeated any of the bad words often. Just early on when they were repeating EVERYTHING and they heard it and repeated it (why is it that they ALWAYS repeat teh bad words??). You can only try to teach your child the positive and negative of those words. Hope it helps. best of luck chicky! (and I didn't proof read this so I don't want to hear anything about any of my typo's *shakes a fist at you to strengthen his point*)
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Post by JD on Jan 30, 2005 13:18:07 GMT -5
i suppose he is at that stage where he repeats everything. it just worries me that this kind of language will become habit forming.
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Post by hfxpaintball on Jan 30, 2005 18:43:41 GMT -5
surprisingly for me, it has never stuck with my kids. An that is incredible. Like I said, I curb my language but if I'm with a bunch of people arsing aroun it'll slip out of my mouth and out of theirs but they are really good about it. I think I'm blessed a bit.
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Post by Dranem on Feb 7, 2005 22:26:37 GMT -5
i suppose he is at that stage where he repeats everything. it just worries me that this kind of language will become habit forming. At your boy's age, he's a mocking bird - particularly with an influence such as dad's can be. Tell your ex that if he wants the benefit of being part of his son's life, then he's going to have to start taking the responsabilities that go with it... including cleaning up his act and become a good example. Kids are sponges, they obsorb everything they see, hear and touch - for better and for worse! I'm a father of 4.. though I'm not single, sorry.  I know where paintball's coming from all too well.. My older 2 are from a previous marriage. It was hard enough when I only saw them every weekend.. now they live halfway across teh country! I moved here, but they still live with their mother. If ever you need to vent out parental issues, I'm usually here to lend an ear.. I have 3 IM accounts, e-mail, and try to pop in here at least once a week, more if I can take the time.... |
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Post by hfxpaintball on Feb 8, 2005 21:29:18 GMT -5
dude, you have to be a strong guy. I don't know what I would do if my kids were that far away. My boys are my life, and although I don't see them very often, there isn't a day that goes by that I don't miss them. Kudo's to you, man, for being able to get through it.
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Post by JD on Feb 8, 2005 21:39:24 GMT -5
and i dont mean omg, my kid jus ate 7oz in a growth spurt.
anyone else have this problem? my son was prescibed to be on rice cereal at 3 weeks old. he is now 7 weeks old and eats 50+oz of formula + 3x2tbls (dry) feedings of wheat & rice cereal. is there anything else finacially i can do to cut down on what he is eating? i cant put him on 'real' food yet because it is too hard to digest, but what he is eating is not satifying him he is up every 1-2 hours for 6-8oz of formula, and even after his cereal he still eats the same amount. he is not gaining a significant amount of weight for what he is eating either, he is actually in the normal curve. i don't know what else i can do! neone with ne advice, please share!!
$ are gettin short, i need HELP!!!!
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Post by hfxpaintball on Feb 8, 2005 21:50:18 GMT -5
damn jd, I really am at a loss here. I would talk to his doctor, if you haven't yet. I really never had this problem so I can't say anything from experience. All I can do is, as hard as it may be, and I don't know if it is recommended or what, but when he get's up, maybe see if he can wait an extra half hour or so. Don't do it without consulting a doctor, though! It's the only thing I can think of.
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Post by JD on Feb 9, 2005 19:31:48 GMT -5
spoke to the docs, more than once! no ideas from them either:(
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Post by Dranem on Feb 12, 2005 10:06:24 GMT -5
This is - unfortunately - quite normal JD. My 2nd younguest couldn't eat enough! My youngest was just as bad.. he was already holding his head up at 2 weeks! He was walking before he was a year.. all that energy takes a toll on a little body, and they need a LOT of food.  There are parental programs available: Healthy Baby, etc that should be able to help you with a little extra funds to fuel the bottomless tummy you've born to the world. Unfortunately, today's economy is cruel to parents. They assume that a parent has money... everything costs! If you truely need a lot of help, there are church groups and food banks that can help out take the edge off your financial burden.. if you don't have to pay as much to feed yourself, you'll be able to afford more for baby. I know it's not easy to ask for help, you want to show you can manage on your own, but trust me.. you're no worse of a mom to ask for help. Take it from from someone who's been there.. more than once  |
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Post by JD on Feb 12, 2005 16:26:45 GMT -5
where can i find healthy baby dranem?
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Post by JD on Feb 15, 2005 5:28:03 GMT -5
anyone on here try the freederm (eczema product) shown in one of the banner ads on this site? both my boys and my bro have severe eczema and i am always looking for something that might work. i dont try things (unless they're free samples of dermotoligist tested stuff) until ive heard a "real person" testify that it works. so anyone?
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Post by Dranem on Feb 15, 2005 18:05:13 GMT -5
anyone on here try the freederm (eczema product) shown in one of the banner ads on this site? both my boys and my bro have severe eczema and i am always looking for something that might work. i dont try things (unless they're free samples of dermotoligist tested stuff) until ive heard a "real person" testify that it works. so anyone? My eldest son has skin problems too, I'll get back to you when I get a chance to talk to my ex about it... As for the Healthy Baby program? Umm.. Not quite sure really, our obstrician got us involved with it. Check with EIA, or often known as Family Assitance... it's provincially run, so I'm not sure what you guys call it here. The Healthy baby program is a subsidy that's based on your income, the less you have, the more they give, etc. |
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I know where paintball's coming from all too well.. My older 2 are from a previous marriage. It was hard enough when I only saw them every weekend.. now they live halfway across teh country! I moved here, but they still live with their mother.
